AKA It's not my job to make it so a man won't stare at me
We've all heard it. Of course, by we I mean women.
"Dress modestly so you don't tempt the men!" or "Help out your brothers in Christ by keeping your body covered!"
Why don't I ever hear those people tell men to keep their shirts on because it'll tempt the girls? Oh, right, yes, because men struggle with lust.
...and women don't? Yeah, okay.
Let's say okay, sure, men struggle with lust. All men. Good.Why should I have to manipulate myself so that men don't fall to their own problems? I guess you're saying that men are completely unable to control themselves? That men don't think about what they're doing?
Men are better than that. And guess what? If I want to wear a bikini on the beach and a man struggles with lust, you know, maybe he shouldn't go to the beach. Where a lot of women wear bikinis. Wow, look, common sense.
We are not obligated to censor ourselves just to make lives easier for men.
I'm absolutely tired of hearing "oh well, look at what she was wearing. She was asking for it." No amount of clothing or lack thereof is an open invitation to men (or other women, let's be real here) to indulge in their lust and belief that they can have what they see because they want it.
So you know what? If I believe I can wear a bikini and I want to wear one, I'm gonna wear one. It's not my fault if someone falters over their lust because of what I'm wearing.
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